You ever want something so bad, that you can taste it? I mean you want it so bad that you can feel it with every fiber of your being and won't rest until you have it in your possession? I think we all experience this moment at least once in our lives and the crazy thing is that most of what we want is attainable. But the question is how much are you willing to work hard for and sacrifice for what you really want? Oh you're willing to do whatever it takes? Well then I have one phrase for you...
Make me learn it!
That's right make me learn it. If you are so dedicated to your craft, your vision, hell even your reputation, make me or whoever you are trying to convince that your are 'the shit' and about your business. Go above and beyond simply wanting to do great things but actually DO them and do them well. Make whatever your passion is your lifestyle; live, breath, and create your own world around you. So much to the point where it consumes your everyday life and all you can express is how much you want whatever you're going after. It is absolutely necessary to do so because when that moment comes where you have to prove yourself, you will be overly prepared and ready for anything. Those moments often reveal one's character and prove how much someone is really willing to sacrifice to get what they really want.
These moments in life are like a series of tests being thrown at you just to see what you're made of. They always reveal who's really in it to win it and who just wants the glory without the hard work.They never tell you when or why these moments are going to happen, but they happen every so often just to make sure you can handle what you're asking for. So which category do you fall under? Oh so you say you're willing to put in the work? Well, what are you waiting for?
Make us learn you....
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
The Content of My Caricature
You know, sometimes I often look at life as like a big production. We all play certain roles in our every day lives that go according to how we are supposed to be. Each character created to fit and mold into any scenario that the metaphorical production manager of our lives wants us to be. With every individual, there is a certain slot to fill in a group and any deviation from that role is...well out of character. Often times this depiction of the role we're supposed to play is a one dimensional caricature of who we really are. It's the thing that stands out about you the most, that prominent brow, the outlandish personality, whatever it may be becomes the role that we are known for and identified with. But what happens when you start to believe that who you are believed to be based of one aspect of your life is the only thing that makes you unique?
I believe people are so multi-faceted in who they ultimately are that they can be boxed into only one category that describes who they are. But I also believe people lump people into categories triggered by stereotypes of that person because it is easier for them to understand. As a people we tend not to make scenario's more complicated than they need to be, so we simplify things and categorize as a way of controlling what they see. When it comes to people this practice is used more times than not. It's seems easier to only see the surface of this person and go off what we see rather than what really makes this person unique in every way.
Most people go through life having a certain perception of themselves that we want to convey to everyone but get caught up in the perception of them that people have. So we play into the role and after enough times of convincing yourself it's true it starts to become your reality. But what exactly entails genuinely being yourself? If we are so consumed in becoming what we feel like we should be, how is there ever time to find the true essence of what we really are as an individual?
The answer is not easily told but I figure it involves much courage and plenty of soul searching. The best belief starts within yourself and as soon as you depend more on your own opinion as opposed to others a sense of self starts to develop. So as you go on from this post let me encourage you this, if you ever question who you genuinely are play more towards your heart than playing towards the crowd.
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
I believe people are so multi-faceted in who they ultimately are that they can be boxed into only one category that describes who they are. But I also believe people lump people into categories triggered by stereotypes of that person because it is easier for them to understand. As a people we tend not to make scenario's more complicated than they need to be, so we simplify things and categorize as a way of controlling what they see. When it comes to people this practice is used more times than not. It's seems easier to only see the surface of this person and go off what we see rather than what really makes this person unique in every way.
Most people go through life having a certain perception of themselves that we want to convey to everyone but get caught up in the perception of them that people have. So we play into the role and after enough times of convincing yourself it's true it starts to become your reality. But what exactly entails genuinely being yourself? If we are so consumed in becoming what we feel like we should be, how is there ever time to find the true essence of what we really are as an individual?
The answer is not easily told but I figure it involves much courage and plenty of soul searching. The best belief starts within yourself and as soon as you depend more on your own opinion as opposed to others a sense of self starts to develop. So as you go on from this post let me encourage you this, if you ever question who you genuinely are play more towards your heart than playing towards the crowd.
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Monday, May 9, 2011
Put In Perspective
You know, life can be a muthafucka.
When you get in certain situations that seeem virtually impossible to get out of it can seem like you can never get out of that place. But you wanna know the most interesting part about those types of situations is that when things start to turn around and get better, you look back and the problem seems insignificant in hindsight. Life's funny that way; it seems like one big mind fuck that messes with your emotions, questions your belief's, and tests your character to no avail until the point where you begin to question anything and everything around you. Then when you are about to hit your lowest point *poof* there goes the answer in the form of a life lesson.
Ain't that about a bitch?
But why is it that you must reach your lowest point to achieve this understanding? What is it about almost losing it all in the road to finding yourself that ultimately gives you the leighway to find what you have been metaphorically been searching for that whole time? The process sucks but is very vital for you to grow as a person and evolve in becoming a better you than you once were.
I've come to the conclusion that its a sort of spiritual cleansing when you lose all that you 'own' in the process of finding your peace of mind. It is absolutely necessary at times to lose everything you have to gain something even more important in the long run. That way you can truly appreciate what you lost along the way. Another benefit of losing everything is that it will allow you to weed out all the 'poisons' in your life that entered for all the wrong reasons because you no longer sustain what bought them there. Hey!! Maybe this is the life lesson you were looking for in the first place.
MESSAGE!!!
But to be able to accomplish all of these things and getting to the point of making yourself whole agian, you have to learn to let go. Let go of any fear, doubt, or worry in your mind and ultimately believe that you will be ok. You must believe that your faith and your true support system, whatever or whomever that may be, will get you through any situation that you may encounter. Any thing or person that is standing in the way of your progression is only a speed bump on the way to your being happy, and must be eliminated from your everyday life. Once that happens most of the problems that once seemed like mountains, will become a molehill and ultimately insignificant.
Change your way of perspective and the people around you, and you'll change your life. Choose to be great.
Unitl next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
When you get in certain situations that seeem virtually impossible to get out of it can seem like you can never get out of that place. But you wanna know the most interesting part about those types of situations is that when things start to turn around and get better, you look back and the problem seems insignificant in hindsight. Life's funny that way; it seems like one big mind fuck that messes with your emotions, questions your belief's, and tests your character to no avail until the point where you begin to question anything and everything around you. Then when you are about to hit your lowest point *poof* there goes the answer in the form of a life lesson.
Ain't that about a bitch?
But why is it that you must reach your lowest point to achieve this understanding? What is it about almost losing it all in the road to finding yourself that ultimately gives you the leighway to find what you have been metaphorically been searching for that whole time? The process sucks but is very vital for you to grow as a person and evolve in becoming a better you than you once were.
I've come to the conclusion that its a sort of spiritual cleansing when you lose all that you 'own' in the process of finding your peace of mind. It is absolutely necessary at times to lose everything you have to gain something even more important in the long run. That way you can truly appreciate what you lost along the way. Another benefit of losing everything is that it will allow you to weed out all the 'poisons' in your life that entered for all the wrong reasons because you no longer sustain what bought them there. Hey!! Maybe this is the life lesson you were looking for in the first place.
MESSAGE!!!
But to be able to accomplish all of these things and getting to the point of making yourself whole agian, you have to learn to let go. Let go of any fear, doubt, or worry in your mind and ultimately believe that you will be ok. You must believe that your faith and your true support system, whatever or whomever that may be, will get you through any situation that you may encounter. Any thing or person that is standing in the way of your progression is only a speed bump on the way to your being happy, and must be eliminated from your everyday life. Once that happens most of the problems that once seemed like mountains, will become a molehill and ultimately insignificant.
Change your way of perspective and the people around you, and you'll change your life. Choose to be great.
Unitl next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Letting Life Happen
...Oh hey there!
Sorry I've been away for so long but ya know, shit happens lol. I've cme back to compound nothing ness because I feel inspired to write again. For a while I was just writing to be writing, which is always one of my biggest concerns. I never want to be in a position where I'm just doing anything to be goignt hrough the motions. That's like creative death to me, so I took a break. I took a break to get myself together, gather my thoughts and just let life happen. And I must say in the months that I have been gone I've grown significantly.
I've learned new lessons in love, discovered new things about me that I wasn't aware of, and was finally able to enjoy myself and the people who truly care about me. It felt great and now I'm ready to share, laugh and love again with all of you!!
So stay tuned faithful Compoun Nothingness viewers and welcome new visitors. I'll be updating more regularly now, so welcome to my world!!! Feel free to comment, engage convo's with me and just have a good time!!
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Sorry I've been away for so long but ya know, shit happens lol. I've cme back to compound nothing ness because I feel inspired to write again. For a while I was just writing to be writing, which is always one of my biggest concerns. I never want to be in a position where I'm just doing anything to be goignt hrough the motions. That's like creative death to me, so I took a break. I took a break to get myself together, gather my thoughts and just let life happen. And I must say in the months that I have been gone I've grown significantly.
I've learned new lessons in love, discovered new things about me that I wasn't aware of, and was finally able to enjoy myself and the people who truly care about me. It felt great and now I'm ready to share, laugh and love again with all of you!!
So stay tuned faithful Compoun Nothingness viewers and welcome new visitors. I'll be updating more regularly now, so welcome to my world!!! Feel free to comment, engage convo's with me and just have a good time!!
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Thursday, February 17, 2011
You Think You Know...
If you have ever lived, ever in time and space, you have had someone judge you before they even got a chance to know you.
There's no way to get around it because everyone does it whether they consciously want to or not. We've been conditioned as a people to make up your own assumptions about people without asking questions because quite frankly its easier. We surely don't have the time to get to know everyone and their 'story' because we got our own shit going on. The problem with this line of thinking is if you live by this notion you may miss an important part to the 'story' as to why the person you're judging acts the way they do. You never know what that person may have gone through to to get to the point they're at now which is always important to remember when making a decision of someone's character.
From my own experiences, I can tell you that I have been surprised (both good and bad) about some of the people I have prejudged and the outcome of our relationship to this day. Recently, I had an experience with someone I now consider a good friend where I got the perception of them completely fucked up. I thought this person was shady, sneaky and overall a shifty person, but come to find out this person was just merely misunderstood. Come to find out that this person has a heart of gold and is one of the most compassionate people that I have ever come into contact with. But every pro there is a con, I have also experienced some people who have made a perception of themselves as being genuine and good natured only to find out that they were self-absorbed and cutthroat to everyone they have come into contact with.
That's the problem with prejudice, you only get one chance to make up your mind about someone and only one chance to prove that person wrong. Things can go from good to bad or bad to good in an instance with the revelation with a perceived 'minor' detail about that person. So the next time you feel the need to not venture further into someone your judging's personality, remember you might miss the moral of the story by not reading in between the lines.
Until next time folks, '...Keep calm and carry on'
There's no way to get around it because everyone does it whether they consciously want to or not. We've been conditioned as a people to make up your own assumptions about people without asking questions because quite frankly its easier. We surely don't have the time to get to know everyone and their 'story' because we got our own shit going on. The problem with this line of thinking is if you live by this notion you may miss an important part to the 'story' as to why the person you're judging acts the way they do. You never know what that person may have gone through to to get to the point they're at now which is always important to remember when making a decision of someone's character.
From my own experiences, I can tell you that I have been surprised (both good and bad) about some of the people I have prejudged and the outcome of our relationship to this day. Recently, I had an experience with someone I now consider a good friend where I got the perception of them completely fucked up. I thought this person was shady, sneaky and overall a shifty person, but come to find out this person was just merely misunderstood. Come to find out that this person has a heart of gold and is one of the most compassionate people that I have ever come into contact with. But every pro there is a con, I have also experienced some people who have made a perception of themselves as being genuine and good natured only to find out that they were self-absorbed and cutthroat to everyone they have come into contact with.
That's the problem with prejudice, you only get one chance to make up your mind about someone and only one chance to prove that person wrong. Things can go from good to bad or bad to good in an instance with the revelation with a perceived 'minor' detail about that person. So the next time you feel the need to not venture further into someone your judging's personality, remember you might miss the moral of the story by not reading in between the lines.
Until next time folks, '...Keep calm and carry on'
Sunday, February 6, 2011
My Heartbeat
You ever get that feeling around somebody that just makes your heart all a flutter the moment they come around? Well I have...
It's gotten to the point where I can't even think straight when this person is around and the thought of them going away just drives you insane. Your heart goes a million miles a minute from every stroke of their hand and at every mention of their name. All the while you never consider that one day this feeling might go away. You wake up one day and realize the thing that brought you to life just by being there isn't around to make your heart skip with joy. It's some hard shit to swallow but that is always a possibility when it comes to matters of the heart.
Personally speaking, it kind of knocked the wind out of me when it happened and honestly I'm trying to find ways to recover. I usually look for a song that identifies with some of my pain but no song seems to delve deep enough into how badly I feel. It just feels like no words can express how I'm supposed to go on about my life without that person being there. My heart used to beat like a hummingbird and now it's slowed to a dull pace.
I don't want to say I'm jaded, but just in a place where I don't want to 'feel' and to be honest with you there is nothing wrong with that. If anyone out there has given there all to making something work or developed many feelings for someone and it didn't work out in your favor its alright to turn off your heart for a while. Feeling like you lost someone you had invested much time in hurts when the fruits of your labor don't come into fruition. The thing that is most important though is to not KEEP your heart in the 'off' position for too long. Take some time to get yourself together but don't miss out on a chance for a new blessing.
You'll find that your normal heartbeat will come back around in no time.
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
It's gotten to the point where I can't even think straight when this person is around and the thought of them going away just drives you insane. Your heart goes a million miles a minute from every stroke of their hand and at every mention of their name. All the while you never consider that one day this feeling might go away. You wake up one day and realize the thing that brought you to life just by being there isn't around to make your heart skip with joy. It's some hard shit to swallow but that is always a possibility when it comes to matters of the heart.
Personally speaking, it kind of knocked the wind out of me when it happened and honestly I'm trying to find ways to recover. I usually look for a song that identifies with some of my pain but no song seems to delve deep enough into how badly I feel. It just feels like no words can express how I'm supposed to go on about my life without that person being there. My heart used to beat like a hummingbird and now it's slowed to a dull pace.
I don't want to say I'm jaded, but just in a place where I don't want to 'feel' and to be honest with you there is nothing wrong with that. If anyone out there has given there all to making something work or developed many feelings for someone and it didn't work out in your favor its alright to turn off your heart for a while. Feeling like you lost someone you had invested much time in hurts when the fruits of your labor don't come into fruition. The thing that is most important though is to not KEEP your heart in the 'off' position for too long. Take some time to get yourself together but don't miss out on a chance for a new blessing.
You'll find that your normal heartbeat will come back around in no time.
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Detox
Recently I made a decision to be happy. And you know what the funny thing is about choosing to be happy, usually involves an exorcism some sort. Whether it be mentally, physically, or even taking someone out of your life, all are necessary in releasing the toxins from your soul.
So I’ve decided to detox…
Not your typical sort of detox but the type of ‘detox’which involves rearranging and possibly eliminate some people in your life that are blocking you on your road to happy. Detoxing people is never an easy process seeing as how these people are the ones you never want to let go. These people, in a way, become connected to (good or bad) in such a way that making a move without them almost seems implausible. It’s kind of like they weigh you down with all of their negative energy and impose terrible thoughts and feelings that leave you feeling horrible about yourself. But the very essence of their being becomes something you become so accustomed to that you become dependent on them and that feeling. After a while, whether you know it or not, they have a major influence on the way you live your life.
Which is why a decision to extract these people from your life is not only important, but necessary for you to be happy in your life. I’ve had many an occasion where I became so entranced with the decisions and actions other ‘influential’ people in my life have had that it threw me WAY off track. These people had made my progression stagnant and impaired me socially from reaching my ultimate potential.
So as a conscious decision to start making a better me, I decided to let these people go. What good are they if they only make you transgress instead of helping you to progress? And I encourage all of you to spiritually detox all of the toxic people in your life and make a conscious decision to be happy. I’m sure you’ll feel 5 pounds lighter in the morning.
Until next time folks ‘…Keep calm and carry on’
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Pity Parties
If there is one thing I CANNOT stand it is someone who constantly feels sorry for themselves.
There is simply not enough time in the day for people to be sorry for themselves ALL the time. It's one thing to have moments of weakness because we all have them. But to let that self wallowing carry on into your everyday life I can not condone. After a while it's time for you to be proactive about what has gone wrong in your life and make a change for the better.
We as people need to understand that all the time that we invest into a situation causes for said situation to exist. The more time you invest into putting a negative situation means the more that situation has power over you. Much like when you respond to a hater, acknowledging and letting a problem you are having get to you means that the situation has won you over. If you simply address the problem head on and get over it you most of the time will feel better. Besides, no one really cares about how sorry you feel for yourself, so why should you?
Invest your time into looking at things in a more positive space. If you don't like something change it! If you think something is wrong in the space it's in move it! The moral to this story is that you have the power and control to create and destroy your own destiny. Don't just complain about how something is affecting you, be a agent for change proactive in how the situation affects you. And make sure there isn't any room in your life for a pity party, because I'm sure no one will want to go.
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
There is simply not enough time in the day for people to be sorry for themselves ALL the time. It's one thing to have moments of weakness because we all have them. But to let that self wallowing carry on into your everyday life I can not condone. After a while it's time for you to be proactive about what has gone wrong in your life and make a change for the better.
We as people need to understand that all the time that we invest into a situation causes for said situation to exist. The more time you invest into putting a negative situation means the more that situation has power over you. Much like when you respond to a hater, acknowledging and letting a problem you are having get to you means that the situation has won you over. If you simply address the problem head on and get over it you most of the time will feel better. Besides, no one really cares about how sorry you feel for yourself, so why should you?
Invest your time into looking at things in a more positive space. If you don't like something change it! If you think something is wrong in the space it's in move it! The moral to this story is that you have the power and control to create and destroy your own destiny. Don't just complain about how something is affecting you, be a agent for change proactive in how the situation affects you. And make sure there isn't any room in your life for a pity party, because I'm sure no one will want to go.
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Awwww aka 'All Hope Is Lost'
There's always a special moment in the beginning of the 'getting to know you' process that always feels so genuine and pure. You talking over drinks, walking in the park, or (insert scenario here) and everything is going smoothly until they say the one thing that ruins any hope of further conversation. It's the one thing you never want to hear uttered your way while giving your best game to said person and trying to 'woo' a date.
The dreaded 'Awww...'
That's right. Those four seemingly harmless letters hold so much weight and say exactly how you feel about so many things in how that person feels about you. You have to understand the gravity that an 'awww' holds to really get where I'm coming from. Once an 'awww' is uttered you have no chance to be with this person.
The condescension that an 'awww' entails speaks volumes in how this person views you. You are automatically put in the friend zone, and have no chance for reentry into the sweepstakes of this person's heart after said 'awww'. None. So you're better off just making the best of this moment and planning for your next potential date work.
The trick to figuring out if this particular 'awww' is the one of rejection or if it a genuine one is all in the motion that go with said 'awww'. If there is a smile included with a hair flip and a gentle giggle afterward then that 'awww' is harmless. But if there is a head tilt with a soft 'awww' and a look away motion; you're officially boned and you have now entered 'friend zone'. Just keep in mind the signs of the condescending 'awww' and the power it entails. It might save you some time in trying to figure out if that relationship is worth investing in. Don't say I never told you anything ;)
Until next time folks '....Keep calm and carry on'
The dreaded 'Awww...'
That's right. Those four seemingly harmless letters hold so much weight and say exactly how you feel about so many things in how that person feels about you. You have to understand the gravity that an 'awww' holds to really get where I'm coming from. Once an 'awww' is uttered you have no chance to be with this person.
The condescension that an 'awww' entails speaks volumes in how this person views you. You are automatically put in the friend zone, and have no chance for reentry into the sweepstakes of this person's heart after said 'awww'. None. So you're better off just making the best of this moment and planning for your next potential date work.
The trick to figuring out if this particular 'awww' is the one of rejection or if it a genuine one is all in the motion that go with said 'awww'. If there is a smile included with a hair flip and a gentle giggle afterward then that 'awww' is harmless. But if there is a head tilt with a soft 'awww' and a look away motion; you're officially boned and you have now entered 'friend zone'. Just keep in mind the signs of the condescending 'awww' and the power it entails. It might save you some time in trying to figure out if that relationship is worth investing in. Don't say I never told you anything ;)
Until next time folks '....Keep calm and carry on'
Your Circle: A Love Story
There's a saying that goes 'the people around you are a direct reflection of who you are, so choose your friends wisely'
Hmmm....
It wasn't until recently that I had noticed how true that this saying was. Everyday we choose to associate ourselves with people we can relate to on a level that most other people can't. These people usually 'get' us and have the same feelings about most of the same topics as we do. But there are always some qualities in some of our friends that we really don't agree with. For example, you could be really reserved in everything that you do while you're friend may be candid and outrageous in every aspect of their lives. Not a major problem but there can be times when these contrasts in character can see problems arise.
I am an avid believer in going hard for the one's who love you the most but the reality of things is who you hang around says many things about you. You would want to surround yourself around people who want to uplift, motivate, and push you to do better.
This is especially true when the perception of how your close friends are looked at affects YOU. It's shallow to say but hey it's the truth. Many times that job promotion, a date determining whether they can deal with you or not, and even your public perception depends on how you interact with the ones who are closest to you. The ideal answer to this dilemma would be 'If they can't accept my friends, then they can't accept me and I don't need them' but we don't live in an ideal world. Who you hang around is a great deal of importance to those who are essential in helping you progress in life.
I feel it's important to always surround yourself with people who are the best reflection of you. You're true friends will always showcase you in the best light and have your best interest in mind. I don't mean only in the shallow ways such as appearance, money, and status; I'm talking about being there for you when you need them the most and most importantly being able to adapt to any situation without embarrassing you. So keep that circle tight and sucka free.
Until next time folks '....Keep calm and carry on'
Hmmm....
It wasn't until recently that I had noticed how true that this saying was. Everyday we choose to associate ourselves with people we can relate to on a level that most other people can't. These people usually 'get' us and have the same feelings about most of the same topics as we do. But there are always some qualities in some of our friends that we really don't agree with. For example, you could be really reserved in everything that you do while you're friend may be candid and outrageous in every aspect of their lives. Not a major problem but there can be times when these contrasts in character can see problems arise.
I am an avid believer in going hard for the one's who love you the most but the reality of things is who you hang around says many things about you. You would want to surround yourself around people who want to uplift, motivate, and push you to do better.
This is especially true when the perception of how your close friends are looked at affects YOU. It's shallow to say but hey it's the truth. Many times that job promotion, a date determining whether they can deal with you or not, and even your public perception depends on how you interact with the ones who are closest to you. The ideal answer to this dilemma would be 'If they can't accept my friends, then they can't accept me and I don't need them' but we don't live in an ideal world. Who you hang around is a great deal of importance to those who are essential in helping you progress in life.
I feel it's important to always surround yourself with people who are the best reflection of you. You're true friends will always showcase you in the best light and have your best interest in mind. I don't mean only in the shallow ways such as appearance, money, and status; I'm talking about being there for you when you need them the most and most importantly being able to adapt to any situation without embarrassing you. So keep that circle tight and sucka free.
Until next time folks '....Keep calm and carry on'
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Picturesque....ish
I have a problem...
Everything has to be in alignment at all times for things to be in order in my life. I always liken my problem as being similar to a crooked picture on display. I always find myself trying to adjust it to where its at the right angle of being picturesque. I work for hours and hours on end to try and align every edge to being at the most perfect angle. All of that only to find that the perfect alignment is always off balance slightly. I always end up frustrated and never really getting it right so I give up.
This same philosophy of how I view things in life is probably the reason why I can't maintain a relationship. I have this steadfast idea of what the perfect person to be in a relationship will be like and when that person doesn't come like how I want it, I try and 'tweak' them. You know just adjust them a little bit to be the type of person I want them to be. I mean that's only right, right? Right? Wrong...
The problem with that is people aren't inanimate objects that can be shaped and molded to your specifications because you don't agree with how they were built. Who a person is and how they operate is something you can either choose to accept or walk away from because that is just who they are. Trying to change a person's 'picture' to fit your frame is not only unfair but it also says many things about who YOU are. That person can't help but be who they are and to try and change their image will only cause them to be untrue to themselves; which is never a good thing. Besides, most of the time trying to change someone only changes you in the grand scheme of things.
I know I have a problem with 'adjusting pictures' in my life and I'm sure there are other people who go through the same thing, but remember we're all perfect imperfections. Leave it off kilter sometimes and try not to adjust it; you might end up really liking that angle.
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
Everything has to be in alignment at all times for things to be in order in my life. I always liken my problem as being similar to a crooked picture on display. I always find myself trying to adjust it to where its at the right angle of being picturesque. I work for hours and hours on end to try and align every edge to being at the most perfect angle. All of that only to find that the perfect alignment is always off balance slightly. I always end up frustrated and never really getting it right so I give up.
This same philosophy of how I view things in life is probably the reason why I can't maintain a relationship. I have this steadfast idea of what the perfect person to be in a relationship will be like and when that person doesn't come like how I want it, I try and 'tweak' them. You know just adjust them a little bit to be the type of person I want them to be. I mean that's only right, right? Right? Wrong...
The problem with that is people aren't inanimate objects that can be shaped and molded to your specifications because you don't agree with how they were built. Who a person is and how they operate is something you can either choose to accept or walk away from because that is just who they are. Trying to change a person's 'picture' to fit your frame is not only unfair but it also says many things about who YOU are. That person can't help but be who they are and to try and change their image will only cause them to be untrue to themselves; which is never a good thing. Besides, most of the time trying to change someone only changes you in the grand scheme of things.
I know I have a problem with 'adjusting pictures' in my life and I'm sure there are other people who go through the same thing, but remember we're all perfect imperfections. Leave it off kilter sometimes and try not to adjust it; you might end up really liking that angle.
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
New Year, New You?
The glitter's gone, the hangover's been cured and we're all back to work as usual. The new year is here and with it comes a fresh start, a new outlook on the upcoming year and you finally making that 'resolution to be a new you' happen. But as we all know 95% of New Years plans fail epically in attempt to try and be a different version of ourselves. I've always been curious as to why most people fail to attain their goal of being a different version of themselves and then it hit me all of a sudden. Maybe instead of trying to be a different version of ourselves we should try be a better version of ourselves.
Think about it, if every year your trying to be someone different than what you actually are how will you find out what is best version of the real you. Don't get me wrong I'm all for discovering different facets of your personality and embarking upon them, but its important not to lose sight of who you really are in the process. Embarking upon many different walks and journeys in life is the criteria of what truly living life is about, but its more important to keep a strong foundation with your sense of self while traveling.
It's always important to remember to expound upon your great qualities while trying to create new traits for your character. You have most of the tools that you need to get to where you ultimately want to be in your life, just unleash all of the potential you already have before venturing for new facets of your life.
So here's to the New Year!!! New Year, BETTER you ;)
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Think about it, if every year your trying to be someone different than what you actually are how will you find out what is best version of the real you. Don't get me wrong I'm all for discovering different facets of your personality and embarking upon them, but its important not to lose sight of who you really are in the process. Embarking upon many different walks and journeys in life is the criteria of what truly living life is about, but its more important to keep a strong foundation with your sense of self while traveling.
It's always important to remember to expound upon your great qualities while trying to create new traits for your character. You have most of the tools that you need to get to where you ultimately want to be in your life, just unleash all of the potential you already have before venturing for new facets of your life.
So here's to the New Year!!! New Year, BETTER you ;)
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
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