Thursday, February 17, 2011

You Think You Know...

If you have ever lived, ever in time and space, you have had someone judge you before they even got a chance to know you.

There's no way to get around it because everyone does it whether they consciously want to or not. We've been conditioned as a people to make up your own assumptions about people without asking questions because quite frankly its easier. We surely don't have the time to get to know everyone and their 'story' because we got our own shit going on. The problem with this line of thinking is if you live by this notion you may miss an important part to the 'story' as to why the person you're judging acts the way they do.  You never know what that person may have gone through to to get to the point they're at now which is always important to remember when making a decision of someone's character.

From my own experiences, I can tell you that I have been surprised (both good and bad) about some of the people I have prejudged and the outcome of our relationship to this day. Recently, I had an experience with someone I now consider a good friend where I got the perception of them completely fucked up. I thought this person was shady, sneaky and overall a shifty person, but come to find out this person was just merely misunderstood. Come to find out that this person has a heart of gold and is one of the most compassionate people that I have ever come into contact with. But every pro there is a con, I have also experienced some people who have made a perception of themselves as being genuine and good natured only to find out that they were self-absorbed and cutthroat to everyone they have come into contact with.

That's the problem with prejudice, you only get one chance to make up your mind about someone and only one chance to prove that person wrong. Things can go from good to bad  or bad to good in an instance with the revelation with a perceived 'minor' detail about that person. So the next time you feel the need to not venture further into someone your judging's personality, remember you might miss the moral of the story by not reading in between the lines.

Until next time folks, '...Keep calm and carry on'

Sunday, February 6, 2011

My Heartbeat

You ever get that feeling around somebody that just makes your heart all a flutter the moment they come around? Well I have...


It's gotten to the point where I can't even think straight when this person is around and the thought of them going away just drives you insane. Your heart goes a million miles a minute from every stroke of their hand and at every mention of their name. All the while you never consider that one day this feeling might go away. You wake up one day and realize the thing that brought you to life just by being there isn't around to make your heart skip with joy. It's some hard shit to swallow but that is always a possibility when it comes to matters of the heart.

Personally speaking, it kind of knocked the wind out of me when it happened and honestly I'm trying to find ways to recover. I usually look for a song that  identifies with some of my pain but no song seems to delve deep enough into how badly I feel. It just feels like no words can express how I'm supposed to go on about my life without that person being there. My heart used to beat like a hummingbird and now it's slowed to a dull pace.

I don't want to say I'm jaded, but just in a place where I don't want to 'feel' and to be honest with you there is nothing wrong with that.  If anyone out there has given there all to making something work or developed many feelings for someone and it didn't work out in your favor its alright to turn off your heart for a while. Feeling like you lost someone you had invested much time in hurts when the fruits of your labor don't come into fruition. The thing that is most important though is to not KEEP your heart in the 'off' position for too long. Take some time to get yourself together but don't miss out on a chance for a new blessing.

You'll find that your normal heartbeat will come back around in no time.

Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'