The "C" Word

Commitment.

What came to mind when you read that? Did you immediately wince in your seat? I know I had a rumbling in my stomach from the mention of it. Hell, that was scary just the thought of even writing it down. It feels as though the thought of only being with one person for a long period of time seems to put the fear of god in most people's heart worse than death sometimes. But where does this fear of only being exclusive with one person stem from? Why does it seem that the "C word" concept is one that most people can't wrap their minds around?

As far as I can conclude most people have a fear of the "C word" for one of three reasons:

Reason #1: 'Daddy issues'- It isn't a rare occurance for our parents to be seperated now a days. Seeing your father or mother move out of a marriage leaves a lasting impression of how relationships should be handled in their kids minds. So not having that proper example of a healthy relationship often adds to the fear of the big "C"; mostly because that person starts to feel it won't ever work.

Reason #2: 'Fear'- Quite simply people won't commit because they're a coward. They feel that if they give into the feelings that they have for their significant other then that will somehow restrict them and they will lose all of their indiviuality. So rather than facing the issue head on, they run and never take that next step; these people specialize in never taking chances in the matter of the heart.

Reason #3: 'The I'm Doing Me/Hoe Shit excuse' These type of people just aren't capable of loving anyone other than themselves. They have plenty of options and they're going to exhaust every one of them because they can. Most of the time they tell you what you want to hear just to get what they want. More often than not they have no intenions of being with only you, or anyone for that matter, and that's just the way it is.

Regardless of which category you may feel like you fall into, it is important to remember that commitment is a HUGE part in any relationship. It not only shows your strength of character, but allows you to grow as an individual. Making that all important step to making something official with someone shows that you are in it to win it with them. We all must protect our hearts from people who want to take advantage of us, but playing it safe all the time never got anyone anywhere. Besides if you aren't willing to lock down someone you truly care about there will always be someone else more than willing to do so.

Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'