Not So Instant Gratification

When did romance die because I clearly missed the memo?

It seems that the moment the world got turned over to the A.D.D. Generation the attention paid to courtship became as short as the time you spent at your last speed dating session. It seems like now a days people live in such a fast paced society that even something that should be as special as taking someone on a date seems like a microwaved process that finishes just as quickly as it starts. But is it really that romance and traditional courtship has died or have we as people become so jaded to the notion of dating that we just skip to all the good parts?

We live in a time where the divorce rate is at an all time high and break up's on reality television are a normal showcase of what 'love' is, so it's not hard to see why people have become turned off by the mere mention of love and dating. But personally I long for the days when love and marriages were expected to prosper and people approach you with the idea of being monogamous as their only intention. A throwback to the time of when people actually went out with each other to have a good time and enjoy each other's company, not just for what you would 'get out of the deal' later.

But with this way of life comes a sense of self worth and respect. To demand these things we have to demand respect, and I definitely include myself in this equation when I speak on this. If we demand a five star experience we have to carry ourselves like five star worthy dates. Granted I know this doesn't apply to every date we come across because its not always that deep, but in general cases this is a must.

In the mean time, here's to the hope that the mindset of a microwaved relationship most people have now a days turns into a full course 5 star courtship and romance returns from the grave =\

Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and Carry On'

Full Display

'people will tell you all about themselves if you just listen...'

I think I have a special gift for figuring people out....

In all my years of living, when people come to me with problems it seems like 9 times out of 10 I can correctly decipher what a person is all about without them having to say much. Does this make me psychic? Well my boobs can tell when it's raining!! (lol) 'Mean Girls' references aside, I know I'm not psychic but I feel like people for as complexed as they make themselves out to be are often quite 'common'. Of course we all have our own little quirks that classify us as different but what I've come to find out is we're all secretly fighting the same fight.
An internal struggle of trying to make our story more interesting than the next person while trying to hide our flaws and showcase our strengths.

I feel like we as people paint ourselves in a picture that is so grandiose in hopes that no one see's the splotches in our character that we're insecure about. But what we fail to realize when we do this is that we're inadvertently telling the world that there is something wrong with us through a facade of pseudo-perfection. We are who we are and go through what we go through what we go through to make us perfect despite all of our imperfections we may possess.

So I'll keep it short in this one in saying that when showcasing your life's 'Picasso' for the world to see, let every aspect show; you're prettier that way.

Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and Carry On'

Moving at The Speed of Kyle

'....Because I love it'

It's been almost a year since I last logged into my online journal 'Compound Nothingness' but I think I made it back just in time. For a while I had a real internal dilemma about where I was going in life and the direction I needed to take with my blog. Did I want to make this bigger? How can in translate this to the people so they feel me? Did I seem genuine? And most importantly am I happy?

Then one day i just said 'Fuck it!'

I think that was one of the most liberating moments in my life to date. The day I truly stopped letting outside influences affect my everyday psyche. That was the day I stopped feeling sorry for myself and stopped worrying about the outcome of everything and allowed myself to live. No longer was I bound by insecurities and a sense of never feeling good enough and made my own rules.

And the first most important rule I established was 'never try to pressure anything into happening before it's time' which is one of the best lessons I have ever applied to my life.

I feel like most of us go through life feeling like we have to accomplish a certain amount of success before a certain time to prove to the world that we are important. For the longest time I felt pressured to live up to this notion but I found myself unhappy. I found myself accomplishing all of these great things but never taking time to appreciate the process of what was going on. At one point I felt like I was living on autopilot and that's the moment I knew things had to change. Things not only had to change for my mental well being but things had to change because my definition of being successful had changed.

I no longer feel the need to be validated by the world or prove a point to people who ultimately never gave a damn about what I did in the first. I made my own set of rules and started living for me. Gradually my worries started diminishing, confidence soared, and the shell I often kept myself in cracked open to showcase the true me I wanted to be.

So I feel like due to this new enlightenment and secure sense of mind you all can feel me on a whole different level as I move at the speed of Kyle.

Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and carry on'