When did romance die because I clearly missed the memo?
It seems that the moment the world got turned over to the A.D.D. Generation the attention paid to courtship became as short as the time you spent at your last speed dating session. It seems like now a days people live in such a fast paced society that even something that should be as special as taking someone on a date seems like a microwaved process that finishes just as quickly as it starts. But is it really that romance and traditional courtship has died or have we as people become so jaded to the notion of dating that we just skip to all the good parts?
We live in a time where the divorce rate is at an all time high and break up's on reality television are a normal showcase of what 'love' is, so it's not hard to see why people have become turned off by the mere mention of love and dating. But personally I long for the days when love and marriages were expected to prosper and people approach you with the idea of being monogamous as their only intention. A throwback to the time of when people actually went out with each other to have a good time and enjoy each other's company, not just for what you would 'get out of the deal' later.
But with this way of life comes a sense of self worth and respect. To demand these things we have to demand respect, and I definitely include myself in this equation when I speak on this. If we demand a five star experience we have to carry ourselves like five star worthy dates. Granted I know this doesn't apply to every date we come across because its not always that deep, but in general cases this is a must.
In the mean time, here's to the hope that the mindset of a microwaved relationship most people have now a days turns into a full course 5 star courtship and romance returns from the grave =\
Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and Carry On'
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Full Display
'people will tell you all about themselves if you just listen...'
I think I have a special gift for figuring people out....
In all my years of living, when people come to me with problems it seems like 9 times out of 10 I can correctly decipher what a person is all about without them having to say much. Does this make me psychic? Well my boobs can tell when it's raining!! (lol) 'Mean Girls' references aside, I know I'm not psychic but I feel like people for as complexed as they make themselves out to be are often quite 'common'. Of course we all have our own little quirks that classify us as different but what I've come to find out is we're all secretly fighting the same fight.
An internal struggle of trying to make our story more interesting than the next person while trying to hide our flaws and showcase our strengths.
I feel like we as people paint ourselves in a picture that is so grandiose in hopes that no one see's the splotches in our character that we're insecure about. But what we fail to realize when we do this is that we're inadvertently telling the world that there is something wrong with us through a facade of pseudo-perfection. We are who we are and go through what we go through what we go through to make us perfect despite all of our imperfections we may possess.
So I'll keep it short in this one in saying that when showcasing your life's 'Picasso' for the world to see, let every aspect show; you're prettier that way.
Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and Carry On'
I think I have a special gift for figuring people out....
In all my years of living, when people come to me with problems it seems like 9 times out of 10 I can correctly decipher what a person is all about without them having to say much. Does this make me psychic? Well my boobs can tell when it's raining!! (lol) 'Mean Girls' references aside, I know I'm not psychic but I feel like people for as complexed as they make themselves out to be are often quite 'common'. Of course we all have our own little quirks that classify us as different but what I've come to find out is we're all secretly fighting the same fight.
An internal struggle of trying to make our story more interesting than the next person while trying to hide our flaws and showcase our strengths.
I feel like we as people paint ourselves in a picture that is so grandiose in hopes that no one see's the splotches in our character that we're insecure about. But what we fail to realize when we do this is that we're inadvertently telling the world that there is something wrong with us through a facade of pseudo-perfection. We are who we are and go through what we go through what we go through to make us perfect despite all of our imperfections we may possess.
So I'll keep it short in this one in saying that when showcasing your life's 'Picasso' for the world to see, let every aspect show; you're prettier that way.
Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and Carry On'
Moving at The Speed of Kyle
'....Because I love it'
It's been almost a year since I last logged into my online journal 'Compound Nothingness' but I think I made it back just in time. For a while I had a real internal dilemma about where I was going in life and the direction I needed to take with my blog. Did I want to make this bigger? How can in translate this to the people so they feel me? Did I seem genuine? And most importantly am I happy?
Then one day i just said 'Fuck it!'
I think that was one of the most liberating moments in my life to date. The day I truly stopped letting outside influences affect my everyday psyche. That was the day I stopped feeling sorry for myself and stopped worrying about the outcome of everything and allowed myself to live. No longer was I bound by insecurities and a sense of never feeling good enough and made my own rules.
And the first most important rule I established was 'never try to pressure anything into happening before it's time' which is one of the best lessons I have ever applied to my life.
I feel like most of us go through life feeling like we have to accomplish a certain amount of success before a certain time to prove to the world that we are important. For the longest time I felt pressured to live up to this notion but I found myself unhappy. I found myself accomplishing all of these great things but never taking time to appreciate the process of what was going on. At one point I felt like I was living on autopilot and that's the moment I knew things had to change. Things not only had to change for my mental well being but things had to change because my definition of being successful had changed.
I no longer feel the need to be validated by the world or prove a point to people who ultimately never gave a damn about what I did in the first. I made my own set of rules and started living for me. Gradually my worries started diminishing, confidence soared, and the shell I often kept myself in cracked open to showcase the true me I wanted to be.
So I feel like due to this new enlightenment and secure sense of mind you all can feel me on a whole different level as I move at the speed of Kyle.
Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and carry on'
It's been almost a year since I last logged into my online journal 'Compound Nothingness' but I think I made it back just in time. For a while I had a real internal dilemma about where I was going in life and the direction I needed to take with my blog. Did I want to make this bigger? How can in translate this to the people so they feel me? Did I seem genuine? And most importantly am I happy?
Then one day i just said 'Fuck it!'
I think that was one of the most liberating moments in my life to date. The day I truly stopped letting outside influences affect my everyday psyche. That was the day I stopped feeling sorry for myself and stopped worrying about the outcome of everything and allowed myself to live. No longer was I bound by insecurities and a sense of never feeling good enough and made my own rules.
And the first most important rule I established was 'never try to pressure anything into happening before it's time' which is one of the best lessons I have ever applied to my life.
I feel like most of us go through life feeling like we have to accomplish a certain amount of success before a certain time to prove to the world that we are important. For the longest time I felt pressured to live up to this notion but I found myself unhappy. I found myself accomplishing all of these great things but never taking time to appreciate the process of what was going on. At one point I felt like I was living on autopilot and that's the moment I knew things had to change. Things not only had to change for my mental well being but things had to change because my definition of being successful had changed.
I no longer feel the need to be validated by the world or prove a point to people who ultimately never gave a damn about what I did in the first. I made my own set of rules and started living for me. Gradually my worries started diminishing, confidence soared, and the shell I often kept myself in cracked open to showcase the true me I wanted to be.
So I feel like due to this new enlightenment and secure sense of mind you all can feel me on a whole different level as I move at the speed of Kyle.
Until next time folks '...Keep Calm and carry on'
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Make Me Learn It
You ever want something so bad, that you can taste it? I mean you want it so bad that you can feel it with every fiber of your being and won't rest until you have it in your possession? I think we all experience this moment at least once in our lives and the crazy thing is that most of what we want is attainable. But the question is how much are you willing to work hard for and sacrifice for what you really want? Oh you're willing to do whatever it takes? Well then I have one phrase for you...
Make me learn it!
That's right make me learn it. If you are so dedicated to your craft, your vision, hell even your reputation, make me or whoever you are trying to convince that your are 'the shit' and about your business. Go above and beyond simply wanting to do great things but actually DO them and do them well. Make whatever your passion is your lifestyle; live, breath, and create your own world around you. So much to the point where it consumes your everyday life and all you can express is how much you want whatever you're going after. It is absolutely necessary to do so because when that moment comes where you have to prove yourself, you will be overly prepared and ready for anything. Those moments often reveal one's character and prove how much someone is really willing to sacrifice to get what they really want.
These moments in life are like a series of tests being thrown at you just to see what you're made of. They always reveal who's really in it to win it and who just wants the glory without the hard work.They never tell you when or why these moments are going to happen, but they happen every so often just to make sure you can handle what you're asking for. So which category do you fall under? Oh so you say you're willing to put in the work? Well, what are you waiting for?
Make us learn you....
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
Make me learn it!
That's right make me learn it. If you are so dedicated to your craft, your vision, hell even your reputation, make me or whoever you are trying to convince that your are 'the shit' and about your business. Go above and beyond simply wanting to do great things but actually DO them and do them well. Make whatever your passion is your lifestyle; live, breath, and create your own world around you. So much to the point where it consumes your everyday life and all you can express is how much you want whatever you're going after. It is absolutely necessary to do so because when that moment comes where you have to prove yourself, you will be overly prepared and ready for anything. Those moments often reveal one's character and prove how much someone is really willing to sacrifice to get what they really want.
These moments in life are like a series of tests being thrown at you just to see what you're made of. They always reveal who's really in it to win it and who just wants the glory without the hard work.They never tell you when or why these moments are going to happen, but they happen every so often just to make sure you can handle what you're asking for. So which category do you fall under? Oh so you say you're willing to put in the work? Well, what are you waiting for?
Make us learn you....
Until next time '...Keep calm and carry on'
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
The Content of My Caricature
You know, sometimes I often look at life as like a big production. We all play certain roles in our every day lives that go according to how we are supposed to be. Each character created to fit and mold into any scenario that the metaphorical production manager of our lives wants us to be. With every individual, there is a certain slot to fill in a group and any deviation from that role is...well out of character. Often times this depiction of the role we're supposed to play is a one dimensional caricature of who we really are. It's the thing that stands out about you the most, that prominent brow, the outlandish personality, whatever it may be becomes the role that we are known for and identified with. But what happens when you start to believe that who you are believed to be based of one aspect of your life is the only thing that makes you unique?
I believe people are so multi-faceted in who they ultimately are that they can be boxed into only one category that describes who they are. But I also believe people lump people into categories triggered by stereotypes of that person because it is easier for them to understand. As a people we tend not to make scenario's more complicated than they need to be, so we simplify things and categorize as a way of controlling what they see. When it comes to people this practice is used more times than not. It's seems easier to only see the surface of this person and go off what we see rather than what really makes this person unique in every way.
Most people go through life having a certain perception of themselves that we want to convey to everyone but get caught up in the perception of them that people have. So we play into the role and after enough times of convincing yourself it's true it starts to become your reality. But what exactly entails genuinely being yourself? If we are so consumed in becoming what we feel like we should be, how is there ever time to find the true essence of what we really are as an individual?
The answer is not easily told but I figure it involves much courage and plenty of soul searching. The best belief starts within yourself and as soon as you depend more on your own opinion as opposed to others a sense of self starts to develop. So as you go on from this post let me encourage you this, if you ever question who you genuinely are play more towards your heart than playing towards the crowd.
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
I believe people are so multi-faceted in who they ultimately are that they can be boxed into only one category that describes who they are. But I also believe people lump people into categories triggered by stereotypes of that person because it is easier for them to understand. As a people we tend not to make scenario's more complicated than they need to be, so we simplify things and categorize as a way of controlling what they see. When it comes to people this practice is used more times than not. It's seems easier to only see the surface of this person and go off what we see rather than what really makes this person unique in every way.
Most people go through life having a certain perception of themselves that we want to convey to everyone but get caught up in the perception of them that people have. So we play into the role and after enough times of convincing yourself it's true it starts to become your reality. But what exactly entails genuinely being yourself? If we are so consumed in becoming what we feel like we should be, how is there ever time to find the true essence of what we really are as an individual?
The answer is not easily told but I figure it involves much courage and plenty of soul searching. The best belief starts within yourself and as soon as you depend more on your own opinion as opposed to others a sense of self starts to develop. So as you go on from this post let me encourage you this, if you ever question who you genuinely are play more towards your heart than playing towards the crowd.
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Monday, May 9, 2011
Put In Perspective
You know, life can be a muthafucka.
When you get in certain situations that seeem virtually impossible to get out of it can seem like you can never get out of that place. But you wanna know the most interesting part about those types of situations is that when things start to turn around and get better, you look back and the problem seems insignificant in hindsight. Life's funny that way; it seems like one big mind fuck that messes with your emotions, questions your belief's, and tests your character to no avail until the point where you begin to question anything and everything around you. Then when you are about to hit your lowest point *poof* there goes the answer in the form of a life lesson.
Ain't that about a bitch?
But why is it that you must reach your lowest point to achieve this understanding? What is it about almost losing it all in the road to finding yourself that ultimately gives you the leighway to find what you have been metaphorically been searching for that whole time? The process sucks but is very vital for you to grow as a person and evolve in becoming a better you than you once were.
I've come to the conclusion that its a sort of spiritual cleansing when you lose all that you 'own' in the process of finding your peace of mind. It is absolutely necessary at times to lose everything you have to gain something even more important in the long run. That way you can truly appreciate what you lost along the way. Another benefit of losing everything is that it will allow you to weed out all the 'poisons' in your life that entered for all the wrong reasons because you no longer sustain what bought them there. Hey!! Maybe this is the life lesson you were looking for in the first place.
MESSAGE!!!
But to be able to accomplish all of these things and getting to the point of making yourself whole agian, you have to learn to let go. Let go of any fear, doubt, or worry in your mind and ultimately believe that you will be ok. You must believe that your faith and your true support system, whatever or whomever that may be, will get you through any situation that you may encounter. Any thing or person that is standing in the way of your progression is only a speed bump on the way to your being happy, and must be eliminated from your everyday life. Once that happens most of the problems that once seemed like mountains, will become a molehill and ultimately insignificant.
Change your way of perspective and the people around you, and you'll change your life. Choose to be great.
Unitl next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
When you get in certain situations that seeem virtually impossible to get out of it can seem like you can never get out of that place. But you wanna know the most interesting part about those types of situations is that when things start to turn around and get better, you look back and the problem seems insignificant in hindsight. Life's funny that way; it seems like one big mind fuck that messes with your emotions, questions your belief's, and tests your character to no avail until the point where you begin to question anything and everything around you. Then when you are about to hit your lowest point *poof* there goes the answer in the form of a life lesson.
Ain't that about a bitch?
But why is it that you must reach your lowest point to achieve this understanding? What is it about almost losing it all in the road to finding yourself that ultimately gives you the leighway to find what you have been metaphorically been searching for that whole time? The process sucks but is very vital for you to grow as a person and evolve in becoming a better you than you once were.
I've come to the conclusion that its a sort of spiritual cleansing when you lose all that you 'own' in the process of finding your peace of mind. It is absolutely necessary at times to lose everything you have to gain something even more important in the long run. That way you can truly appreciate what you lost along the way. Another benefit of losing everything is that it will allow you to weed out all the 'poisons' in your life that entered for all the wrong reasons because you no longer sustain what bought them there. Hey!! Maybe this is the life lesson you were looking for in the first place.
MESSAGE!!!
But to be able to accomplish all of these things and getting to the point of making yourself whole agian, you have to learn to let go. Let go of any fear, doubt, or worry in your mind and ultimately believe that you will be ok. You must believe that your faith and your true support system, whatever or whomever that may be, will get you through any situation that you may encounter. Any thing or person that is standing in the way of your progression is only a speed bump on the way to your being happy, and must be eliminated from your everyday life. Once that happens most of the problems that once seemed like mountains, will become a molehill and ultimately insignificant.
Change your way of perspective and the people around you, and you'll change your life. Choose to be great.
Unitl next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Letting Life Happen
...Oh hey there!
Sorry I've been away for so long but ya know, shit happens lol. I've cme back to compound nothing ness because I feel inspired to write again. For a while I was just writing to be writing, which is always one of my biggest concerns. I never want to be in a position where I'm just doing anything to be goignt hrough the motions. That's like creative death to me, so I took a break. I took a break to get myself together, gather my thoughts and just let life happen. And I must say in the months that I have been gone I've grown significantly.
I've learned new lessons in love, discovered new things about me that I wasn't aware of, and was finally able to enjoy myself and the people who truly care about me. It felt great and now I'm ready to share, laugh and love again with all of you!!
So stay tuned faithful Compoun Nothingness viewers and welcome new visitors. I'll be updating more regularly now, so welcome to my world!!! Feel free to comment, engage convo's with me and just have a good time!!
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
Sorry I've been away for so long but ya know, shit happens lol. I've cme back to compound nothing ness because I feel inspired to write again. For a while I was just writing to be writing, which is always one of my biggest concerns. I never want to be in a position where I'm just doing anything to be goignt hrough the motions. That's like creative death to me, so I took a break. I took a break to get myself together, gather my thoughts and just let life happen. And I must say in the months that I have been gone I've grown significantly.
I've learned new lessons in love, discovered new things about me that I wasn't aware of, and was finally able to enjoy myself and the people who truly care about me. It felt great and now I'm ready to share, laugh and love again with all of you!!
So stay tuned faithful Compoun Nothingness viewers and welcome new visitors. I'll be updating more regularly now, so welcome to my world!!! Feel free to comment, engage convo's with me and just have a good time!!
Until next time folks '...Keep calm and carry on'
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